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i have 2 boys a 4 year old and a 2 and a half year old. HELP. All they do is run around screaming and fighting. Is this normal?

They used to be so quiet and easy going. The youngest is the worst as he throws stuff (normally the most pointed and heavest toys he can find) at the oldest who goes in to victim mode. we have the naught step and a reward chart for the 4 year old.

any advise would be great!

Yes perfectly normal! But not sure that helps...

For years the "establisment" claims that boys and girls are the same that we just treat them differently. Any mother (or father) who spends time at a toddler group, will see clearly that girls are more likely to play quietly and learn and boys tend to run around pulling things apart...

We have no treated our daugther and older son any differently, infact our daughter played with cars a huge amount. However her games involved them lining up and chatting to each other, where as our son drove them around crashing into things....

I have 4 yr old boy and he is very active. Boys learn through their active play. I have found it is better to work with him and make his "active" play as safe as possible rather than trying to stop it. Our daughter plays a lot calmer. The saying that "boys will be boys" has a lot of truth to it.