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Hi - Just typed a beast out and the bloody thing reset and all was deleted -

this time nice and simple -

I'm father to a beautiful 6 month old boy - <ADMIN: NAME REMOVED>, now unfortunately I and his mother dont see eye to eye and although I've tried my best I need to try and sort something out rather than going around in circles. I am not on the birth certificate however as far as I am aware he has my surname " <ADMIN: NAME REMOVED>" - I have yet to see this though.

Now I have been giving money to the mother however not through the CSA as my income isn't great and having a few difficulties - (I worked in the property sector and things fell apart etc) which averages out to be around £30 per week - I have given her cash and also bought essentials to make sure the money is spent on Jake also costs me between £20-£30 in travel - not that I mind this as I'll do whatever I need to so as to se my boy.

Consistency lacks on both sides - for 8 weeks of his life <mum>, with family, friends etc has been on holiday or to various locations - obviously not making it easy for me to see him as I work during the week. This in turn has led to (most of the time) being able to see my son when is convenient to his mum as opposed to times of mutual consent - things finally came to a head last week and now I just want to do whats right and arrange to see my son regularly.

Some q's I have

* Is there any way possible that I can be placed on the birth certificate?
* How do I go about getting some sort of "Parental Responsibility"?
* Should I continue to pay or deal with this through the CSA?
* Is the best route to go through legals and have some formal agreement in place if so What can i do to see my son in the meantime?
* I am not being refused access but it's not being made easy and never on mutual terms - what can I do to arrange to have my son over nght or for weekends of as much as possible really?
* I have my own bills to pay - his mum is at home with her mum in Essex and I'm in London - would there be options for shared custody or something - I am not saying his mum is a bad mum - it's just that I want to share the responsibility of bringing our child up.


Thats the start of it I guess so lets see what I get back and where to go from here - Thanks for your time and reading

lomax81

Hi! Just being a boring admin person here, generally recommend you don't put people's real names in the post - we are not that strict, but your son's name (nice name!) was fairly unusual and it's wise to have some annonymity. So I've done some minor tweaks... hope that's okay.

Very annoying to hear about your problem with the post - if you can think of anything that might help us reproduce the problem please PM us.

I now that the people that know about this side of parenting check reguarly so they should post fairly soon....

It is hard being away from your kid - so I hope you can get some stability back into that relationships.

Nice one thanks for that - makes sense though - - hopefully can get some advice though as I'm at a loss and no idea what tod do for the best! Oh and when you say to help "reproduce the problem" - not sure what your after there??!

Hi Lomaxn81

Thanks for your post. We have asked our legal experts over at the Childrens Legal Centre (CLC)to respond to you question as they have all the legal knowledge. I imagine however that going through the courts and getting things arranged more formally will be the best route for you in getting more contact. CLC may take a few days to respond so do bear with us.

Glad to see that our Admin guys took out your sons name as yes it might be best to keep that kind of stuff private.

Thanks Harvey - is there a tel number or something I can get to contact them....... Thanks in advance

Nick

Hi Nick

Here is a link to the Children's Legal Centres contact details.

http://www.dadtalk.co.uk/directory_of_s ... l%20issues

cheers