Dadtalk

You are doing a great job but one should also be vigilant to how they are spending their money

Give my 12 yo £3 per week in cash, plus I put £10 per month into an account for her (which I can access, she can't) so she can go clothes shopping couple of times a year (not essentials/school uniform - those I pay for). Mobile phone is paid for by my ex.

My 18 year old had a £30 allowance per month from about age 15 (stopped now as she earns enough in her own right doing part time job), plus I pay for her mobile phone contract, as long as she doesn't bust her call/text allowance.

I give my daughter £50 per month straight into her bank account and top up her phone, only around £10 per month pay as you go. She tends to use Facebook to keep in touch with her friends more. I buy her shoes, winter coat, and a few other clothes etc throughout the year. She's a student but doesn't have a part time job so if she runs out of money middle of the month then she is the one who suffers.

We give our kids (13 and 10 years old) £15 per month for which they have to do a few jobs around the house. This makes them realise that they are earning this money. They now do these jobs without objection but it was a struggle at first. They also tried to negotiate for anything I asked them to do!!!

I also pay for a contract phone for them (although I get a discount for the line rental) and then I pay pay for several clubs etc.

I think they both get a good deal!

As well as any allowance I pay, my youngest daughter also gets a small amount for some occasional jobs. The basic allowance is set without conditions - when they lived with their mother, she used to find any excuse not to pay them, so when they came to live with me, I told them that I would never do that.