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My ex partner recently left me for someone else. we stayed in a two bedroom flat and our 14(now 18 month old son stayed in same room) . i used to sleep on sofa mostly but that was probably because she wanted rid!

her elder son had other room

she now has a new partner and he stays overnight in the same room as my son

she does not view this as being wrong

has anyone else experienced this and what advice could they give

newsingledad - have you been able to have a discussion with your ex about your concerns? What was her response?

If you have any child protection concerns about her new partner you need to contact your local social services (children's services). They are able to run local police checks within hours and a full crb (criminal records bureau) check, as well as to check if the mans name is known to them for any other reason.

I would say it is reasonable to have concerns about another man sleeping in your child's bedroom, but also crucial that your motivation is to protect your son, rather than to make life difficult for your ex (tempting as that may be)

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i have spoken to her about it and she thinks that it is no differfent that when she has her pals staying overnight in the same room

ie she has a double bed and when her female pals satys they share her bed and when her boyfriend stays he shares her bed

our son is in his cot at the end of the bed and generally he is awake very early so will be seeing someone there

i cant see how it is the same as her pals staying and he has known then since he was born and theyn have babysit for him so he is used to to them.

i mention it and she thinks i am being unreasonable.

when i have spoken to people at work i actually find that most of the guys said no way and the girls were horrified

I can see your point of view, but to some extent, I can also see hers, in that there is no real alternative and it's not unreasonable that she should have friends (male or female) to stay since you have split up.

Could your son stay out of the bedroom with you when she has someone over to stay?

my fiance just left and moved right out into her own place and has had a man there. he has a criminal record, and she is taking our daughter around him when i wont allow it because he is not allowed to see his own children until just recently. is there anything i can do to stop her from taking my child around him. please let me know. thank you.

Hi Scott

We have asked our legal experts for advice, they will respond directly to the thread so keep posted as it may take a few days

JJ