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Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully?
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TOPIC: Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully?

Re: Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully? 3 years, 2 months ago #541

  • Ronaldo
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Buzz - thats a bit deep.... To infinity my friend...

It seems like everyone voting on this post has been bullied themselves... who did all that bullying? Are you out there??

I like the article on bullying - very helpful especially the top tips at the end - see http://www.dadtalk.co.uk/articles/bully ... llying.php
You might win a match, but you can't match our wins!

United forever!!

Re: Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully? 3 years, 2 months ago #553

Don't know if anyone saw or read this article but worth looking at. Its a mum writing about discovering that her son was bullying other boys at school. I know anti-bullying week is over but this is the first thing i've seen from the bully perspective.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/education/200 ... ur-schools

Anyone out there had to go through the same thing as this couple? What support and info is there out there for parents whose kids bully.

Re: Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully? 2 years, 6 months ago #1252

  • Anonymous
bullied

father in the forces living in Germany at the time when the IRA was really active. hi sense of insecurity because of need for high level security. moved house every 2-4 years.

sent to boarding school at 11yrs and left there by parents.
at 11 and 12 abused by house staff.
tried to run away from school at 12 but failed.
parents 1000miles away - all alone
at 13 joined scout troop and one of their games was that a person would tap you on the head. as soon as they started doing that they started whipping you with the buckle from the scout masters buckle until you got back to your seat.
did not fit into social crowd as overweight and by now very insecure and shy.
in senior house at 14 and now experiencing senior school bullying....
common showers - people regularly pissed on by older boys
common bog washes
in common room lounge and regularly bundled by older lads.
regular midnight pillow bashes. some pillows were "loaded" with things to make them harder and therefore more painful.


these are some of the experiences I had while at school.

how am I now?

dealt with a lot of it in life but it is the finer points that are too upsetting that sit in the darkness and have not been talked about. now having to have sessions to deal with the stress I put myself under at work and home. I am a teacher.

I love my job and my family but the pressure I put myself under because I feel I am not good enough is immense. the kids I work with are brilliant and so are the majority of the teachers. However, I am insecure and when I feel threatened by a person at work find it difficult to cope.

I am getting better with it but I am now 38.

bullying is something which I have experienced and it DOES go through the years affecting how we deal with life, especially those close to us.

Re: Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully? 2 years, 6 months ago #1253

  • Anonymous
I am getting better and I am now starting to appreciate the need for me to view myself better than I have and to talk about how I feel. It is in talking openly with people that I am starting to feel free. it is sometimes just hard to find the people you feel initially confident with that you can talk to.

Re: Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully? 2 years, 6 months ago #1267

  • Ronaldo
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Thanks for sharing bud - that sounds horrendous... As you say talking about it is key to breaking both the shame and the power.. I really connected with Buzz's post at the start of this thread that as he talked it through he realized the dynamic that had played itself out and affected his own self worth... I was bullied and remember constant bruises on my arms from 'beats'.. but i was so insecure i know i was an easy target - always looking for affirmation...

Thats one of the reasons i tell my kids how great they are as often as i can - it almost feels like building a forcefield around them.... i read somewhere about how powerful a fathers words of affirmation are - so its the least i can do
You might win a match, but you can't match our wins!

United forever!!

Re: Were you bullied at school? Or were you the bully? 2 years, 2 months ago #2440

  • Anonymous
While it wasn't an on-going issue, there were times when I was bullied as a child at school. Both my kids are much bigger than I was at their age, so I've worked very hard to ensure that they don't bully. I personally detest bullies and am glad to see that school systems seem to be changing the way that they address this issue. One of my boys is in middle school and his school has a zero tolerance policy on bullying. If confirmed, the first offense two offenses are detention. The 3rd strike gets a expulsion for 2 weeks and the 4th one gets permanent expulsion for the remainder of the year.
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