To marry or not to marry?

They say “love is blind” and sometimes many men who got on the carriage of marriage realised that they need to get off. If you are an African, not so fast, brother. The institution of marriage is a big thing among families and the expectation after the marriage is “we want babies”.

In the western world, the “blindness of love” may not necessary lead to marriage. It may not even lead to babies and there is no problem with that position. In fact western society does not frown on non-married people let alone those who do not have babies. But one thing is certain in either culture; the passion of a sexual moment will lead to babies especially when precaution goes out of the window. One of my favourite Congolese saying is “Love is like a baby: it needs to be treated tenderly”; this is because sometimes Love and babies literally go hand in hand. You may call it love-making but trust me babies will soon join the party.

You don’t need to be married to make babies and sometimes even when you marry and you want to be unmarried; you certainly can not get off the marriage carriage. But when you become a dad, there is no turning back on that one, especially if you really understand that traditions of the African society.