There are many different ways to become a Father

But the fact still remains that fatherhood may not just be a position that one obtains by playing any biological role. There have been instances where people become fathers by adoption, or stepfathers, foster fathers or even a Cuckolded father - where child is the product of the mother's adulterous relationship. Whichever road you take to become a father, the expectations are always the same. Remember the only constant in all of these different types of fathers is You and that little Child who looks up to you as his or her first real Model.

I read in the Washington Post that in Africa “it is customary for a Masai man who is sleeping with another man's wife to plant his spear outside the other man's hut during such lovemaking (not that I condone this action). This practice stems from the fact that the Masai do not place great emphasis on biological fatherhood of children and make no distinction between adopted children and those born within the family. All are welcome and perfectly legitimate. A Masai man's spear bears ornamental patterns indicating the circumcision group of its bearer, the deeds he has performed and his personal identification mark. The planting of the spear outside the hut during lovemaking is a public acknowledgement of the union and an expression of the couple's acceptance of the social responsibility of the act. Irrespective of how you became a father, either biological, adoption, or even social father, the role of a father remains one of the most supreme task that any African man can be given the honour of becoming.

Being a biological daddy is a proud day for any man, even those who were not prepared for it. This is one of those rarest moments that you get to feel like a man. The feeling is even more intense if you ever get the chance to be in the delivery ward to see it all happen before your eyes.

For most women, the Ethiopian saying that “woman without a man is like a field without seed” really comes alive when they have a baby to show what seed the man has been planting at night. To these women true fulfilment of the relationship goes beyond enjoying each other’s company to having the evidence of a baby.  Women attach great importance to having babies and men ought to really know that fact.